Author: sumptuousdaydreams

anonymous asked sumptuousdaydreams:

Wow so um, I am a bit scared to masturbate in my room sometimes because of my parents..I’m 16 and I don’t want them to know of my.. sexual pleasures. I finish myself off with the help of your blog ofc almost everyday and..ah! what shoud I do? Stop?

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My dad just walked in on me laying in my bed, room pitch black (as if I were sound asleep) a minute after I finished. My phone was placed on my chest since i use the help of your blog to get horny and shit. So the porn window was open! What to do??

Just act normal. There’s nothing wrong with what you were doing. It’s a little embarrassing for someone to catch you like that, but ignore it. He’s DEFINITELY not going to say anything about it. I’m sure he’s just as embarrassed as you are about walking in on you. Both of you are going to pretend like it never happened, haha.

Masturbating is a completely normal and healthy activity, just a private one. In the future, be more aware of who’s in the house, try doing it somewhere that has a locked door, or start pushing your parents to knock before they come in. Enforce the “KNOCK FIRST RULE”.

Besides, unless you have the Galaxy with that massive screen, I’m sure your Dad didn’t see much of anything. He’s probably going to excuse it as you taking a nap or resting or something. Dads don’t really like to go right to the “my daughter was getting off” conclusion. It doesn’t even occur to a lot of them! haha.

Trust me, it’d be much worse if your Dad caught you in bed with another person instead of just the phone. That is just not fun and not easy to ignore.

i’ve been hanging out with this guy for a few months and he recently told me he wanted to have sex. we aren’t together or anything but i think i sort of like him plus i really just want to have sex already. do you think it’s a bad idea?

It’s up to you. You might want to wait until you’re actually CERTAIN you like the person. I’m not saying be in love with them, but it really helps when you’re absolutely, positively INTO them. If you’re kind of like “meh”…it’s not going to even be worth trying. The sex will suck.

So about a year ago my friend was spending the night at my house and she took a picture of her beautiful perky boobs and sent them to her boyfriend. Well I asked to see the picture and she showed me, well after seeing that I asked her if I could feel her boobs and she let me. One thing led to another and we ended up 69ing. Well recently I’ve wanted to do it again and I don’t know how to ask her if we can do it again. (I’m a girl btw)

So, to be clear, you’re asking me for advice on how to hook up with your friend, who has a boyfriend, because she cheated on said boyfriend with you last year?

Hm.

how old is too young to be having sex? I mean like middle school is ridiculous but what about high schoolers? Do you think thats too young to be having sex?

I think 9th and 10th grade is still too young, but it starts to become more acceptable (based on individual maturity levels) for juniors and seniors. Not that everyone should start having sex right then, but for some people. that can be the right time for them.

It’s really based on the person. I don’t think ANYONE should be having sex before they’re 16 really and 16 is still freaking young.

I’ve been having these dreams of my best friend (a girl) and I lately and we start to make out and we almost have sex but then I wake up. I’m straight and so is she. Does this mean anything?

Well, let me start off by saying that I am not a psychologist nor am I an expert on dream analysis. Everyone has different theories about what dreams are really about. None are proven. So they remain theories. You’re asking for mine. So here it is:

Sex dreams are very rarely about SEX. It’s true! Yes, we all have those wet dreams that leave us horny and raring to go in the morning, but not all dreams with sex in them are like that.

So why do you dream about having sex (or almost sex) with your best friend when you identify as straight and you’re not attracted to her when you’re conscious? It’s actually pretty common to have a sexual dream about the same-sex even when you’re not gay or bi.

For women, it can be interpreted as your subconscious expressing a deep, emotional connection to the other person – on a friendship level. It’s the way your mind is able to convey the depth of your feelings for your friend, even if it’s only platonic in reality. Sex is largely about intimacy, right? That’s how our brains then interpret it – doesn’t mean it has to be about actual sex at all, just the deeper meaning of it. It’s representative of emotional closeness.

Also, depending on how the dream actually plays out (the details), it could be a commentary about some rift between you two, insecurities about the friendship, or some quality or talent they have that you emulate or desire. Perhaps the reason why you wake up before the actual act of sex occurs points out something going on with you guys – something that’s making you two be distant or lose touch or have a divide between you. Ring any bells?

Relax. If you’re not attracted to her in RL and this is all happening in your dreams, it doesn’t mean you want to sleep with your best friend. Don’t take it so literally. Think about what sex makes you feel. Not the act, but what it could mean on an emotional level. Something about her is on your mind and your brain is trying to work that out for you because you don’t seem to be willing to do it when you’re awake.

Something to think about. 😉

I was the anon who posted about the conversation I had with my aunt and I wanted to say thank you. I wanted your opinion and got it. I wanted a fresh and different perspective and I am grateful. I might add that I am a bit frightened of sex because I think I about how intimate it is and being naked and all that rawness. I know for sure my first times will be awkward but I know once I get comfortable I’ll be an animal. Thanks again for your thoughts.

I’ve recently made out this girl, she told me she didn’t want to have anything serious with anyone, and 5 days later she went back to her ex-girlfriend and I just can’t get over her, I see her everyday in school and everything and I really wanna go after her, but I think she wouldn’t ever be with me. Should I go after her, even though she has a gf and everything?

She chose her ex. That’s it. Don’t pursue someone that would choose someone else over you. You deserve better. It’s hard to see past her right now, but give it time. Someone else will catch your eye and they will be 10x better than you ever hoped for.

Chasing/longing for someone who is in a relationship with someone else and WANTS to be with that other person? Never good. You’re the one who will get your heart broken. Don’t do that to yourself. She’s just not the right one.