Author: sumptuousdaydreams

any thoughts on how i can make her cum would be appreciated. I don’t know if it’s just inexperience on her part or just me being really bad, but I am not going to let myself cum until I make her cum..

Aw, I applaud you for your dedication! Bravo, dude. You’ve got your priorities sorted. 😉

Check out the sex advice tags for ideas. I’ve made some long posts about sex with a woman: try looking at fingering, oral, “how to”, first time, orgasm, etc.

Just browse and get a sense of it! There’s a ton of stuff I’ve replied to over the last year…

Recently my girlfriend and I tried anal, and for the first time in her life she cam, which means she has been wanting a lot more anal sex. I did not want to worry her too much as I have heard of it before, but when we are having anal sex there is usually a white discharge from her anus on my penis (I know it is NOT semen). What is this discharge and is it a bad sign for her or I?

Are you sure it’s not just lathered up lube? It tends gets all worked up and looks like discharge, but it’s just the lube coming out as a blob.

If it’s not that or semen, or semen mixed with lube, then there’s a possibility it could be a type of mucous that the body creates naturally in response to constipation and sometimes anal sex triggers that secretion. If that’s the case, there’s still no cause for concern. It’s normal, not unhealthy, and won’t hurt you or her.

You should tell her what happened anyway because if it continues, then there might be something going on with her health-wise (IBS or something) and she would want to get it checked on. No need to freak her out, but you have to be up front about it!

I’ve heard about it happening a lot so I don’t think there’s something wrong, but I’m not a doctor so this is just one layperson’s opinion.

does confidence have any effect on the ability to orgasm? I’ve been with a handful of girls and have made only a few cum. One was a very self confident girl and we had great sex and I was able to make her cum on average 4 times before I do, but this new girl I’m with I’m her first partner, and I’ve tried everything but I can’t make her cum. She’s not as confident as my other partners. I still haven’t seen her breasts because she won’t let me. she’d let me lick her all night and day though

Self confidence leads to being more comfortable and being comfortable means you’re relaxed and being relaxed means you’re more willing to let yourself be open and FEEL.

So, yes, confidence has a huge impact on whether or not a girl orgasms. It really does take two when it comes to sex. Women need to learn how to ACCEPT an orgasm and men need to learn all the right ways to give them one. It’s teamwork.

Help your girlfriend with her confidence. Build her up. Work on trust. Be patient. Listen to her. Get to know her needs and what she likes. It’ll happen.

Always remember though: all girls are different.

They like different things, different methods turn them on or turn them off, what works for one girl might not work for another. There’s no “one size fits all” concept when it comes to sex. Everyone is unique and that’s one of the best parts – learning everything there is to know about each person. So if you’re just repeating the same things you did with other girls and not changing it up based on the girl you’re with, that could be a big part of the problem as well.

You have to adapt to each individual’s sexual needs.

Hey my gf n i (im a girl) dont have sex a lot because there isnt much to do and gets boring, we find les sex like just foreplay. Strap ons dnt give either of us pleasure. Any help?

You’re doing it wrong. Check out the sex advice tags for some ideas. If you’re definitely gay and you’re not enjoying sex…you’re doing it wrong. lol.

i figured this is the perfect place to vent/ask about my insecurity bc you’re so friendly and helpful. its the hair on my body; i know that many girls have body hair but not as bad as me :( i really wanna have sex i’m horny all the time but i would be too afraid bc of the hair like it’s on my boobs my stomach my lower back and WORST OF ALL: my butt! kissing and touching my stomach/butt wouldn’t be fun because the guy would be grossed out. i cant afford laser removal treatment!:( it sucksss :’/

If it bothers you that much, then wax it all. Have a standing monthly appointment. And if you’re embarrassed to have them do it, TRUST ME – THESE PEOPLE HAVE SEEN IT ALL (and worse) – so just wax it all.

It’s just hair though – not an infectious disease. HAIR. Everyone has it. You’re not a leper.

Don’t go through drastic measures just because you think people won’t find you attractive, because they will find you attractive. But if this is something you need to do to make YOU feel better and more confident and feel sexier, then go ahead.

Just always remember: it. is. just. hair.

That’s all.