Author: sumptuousdaydreams

My girlfriend and I have recently tried introducing anal play into our bedroom, starting with beads. She really loved the sensation of the beads inside her, but when I started using the strap-on and thrusting more vigorously into her, the beads kept slipping out of her ass and wouldn’t stay in. I’m not sure if it’s because there was too much lube or what, but we had to stop since they wouldn’t stay in. Any tips on how to keep the beads from slipping out all the time & during vaginal penetration?

Welp, I can’t really help you here seeing as how I have not yet forayed into that area. Sorry! Anal beads are on my ‘to do’ list?

Messing up in bed actually makes it better and more personal. When i went to out my girlfriend on time, I sneezed. She just laughed and I continued. When she orgasmed, it made a little noise and we both just laughed. it’s cute and makes it that much better. Sex is boring when you don’t mess up. Why would you want porn star sex, when you can make it SO much more personal?

Can I just say, for those who are worried, that it’s so much fun to have little slip ups in bed? It’s amazingly cute to see your partner miss when he/she tries to kiss you or rub you or please you in any sense. It breaks the ice of “oh how is it suppose to be” just go with your body and once you do you won’t have many questions because your body has all the answers! Sex is wonderful. All you need to do is be ready, loosen up and voila! That IS sex!

I’ve been a bit sexually deprived, and while looking at your page, the thought of submitting pictures to you really started to turn me on. So I took some of myself. But I am unfortable with the fact that I cannot submit the anonymously. I don’t really want anyone knowing who I am.

Unfortunately, there’s no option that allows me to let you submit anonymously.

However!

If you don’t want your blog to be known, just tell me that when you submit and I’ll repost the pictures as a new post. It won’t have any affiliation with you, but you’ll get to see yourself on this blog. It’s all naughty, good, anonymous fun.

I absolutely respect everyone’s right to privacy and understand the need for it. So please don’t let that stop you from submitting. I won’t post it with your username attached if you don’t want it. 🙂

Hi, I’m an 18 year old girl and I lost my virginity on my 15th birthday to my girlfriend at the time. She was 14 1/2. It was honestly the best sex I’d ever had, and I’ve had multiple sexual partners since then. Do you think that it’s wrong that we had sex so early? I’ve never regretted it and neither has she I don’t think.

If you don’t regret it, then of course it’s not wrong. You obviously chose a moment when you were ready for it. Not many people are prepared at that age, but if you were, then good for you.

However, is it possible that maybe you’re looking back at your first time through rose colored glasses? Maybe it wasn’t that the sex was so great, but that you were so happy to be with who you were with? She was your first. We all have a soft spot for our first loves, a part of us may always be in love with them. It’s a strange thing. Doesn’t mean they were “the one”, but they have a part of us that we can’t get back – stays with you our whole lives. So maybe you’re looking back at her knowing how much you loved her and it’s just that you haven’t found the right person yet that will succeed her. (You will find that person eventually.)

We tend to over romanticize/dramatize significant moments in our lives especially when it’s with people we care about. If it was subpar, we can blow it out of proportion and say WORST EVER. If it was good, then that can sometimes be elevated in our memories to BEST EVER.

Either way, if you’re still comparing sex with your ex-girlfriend to current partners today…you might want to take a hard look at what you’re doing and why you keep thinking about her. Why was it the best sex you’ve ever had? What made it that way? What turns sex from good into great into amazing is usually how we feel about the partner we’re with.

I had sex for the first time 2 days ago, we were both a little drunk but still, he used condoms the whole time. He went out a little rough and I thought it was normal for me not being able to walk for a few days (btw, I didn’t bleed since I broke my hymen from previous fingering long ago), but today I noticed I was lightly bleeding, and yesterday I felt like a pinch in my uterus. Was i ovulating or its the spotting thing when you get pregnant?

It’s aways possible that you’re pregnant, but it’s been TWO DAYS, so I say it’s highly unlikely and you’re worrying too much. You can’t even take a pregnancy test yet. I’m sure you’re just ovulating, that’s what it sounds like, but if you’re that concerned, take a home pregnancy test in a few days to see.

On a side note, you should not have had so much pain in the following days! You’re usually sore the next day or so, but that’s it. He was definitely way too rough with you, not even for a first timer – for anyone! If you were in pain when you walked for DAYS after…that’s not normal. Especially when you already had your hymen torn so it’s purely a muscular issue where you’d be sore because the walls of your vaginal channel had to stretch in a way they never have before.

This all comes down to the fact that you should have experience very little discomfort, not major discomfort like you’re describing. I don’t know what it is you guys did, but I really advise you take it easier if you have sex with him again.

To the girl that wanted to come out as bi, just thought I’d share my experience. I’m almost 17 and I came out to my mum last summer. She still doesn’t believe me. She isn’t biphobic, she just doesn’t think I can know until I’ve started dating, even though I’ve known since I was about 11. My point is even if she takes it well get ready for a lot of judging, and ‘are you sure’ and ‘it’s just your hormones’. It can be hard to convince people literally right up until you come home with a girlfriend.

So true. This is extremely common. People have a hard time understanding the fluidity of sexuality when it’s been branded into our heads that it HAS to be one or the other. No “in between”.

That’s why I don’t even like the term “bisexual”. People fall in love with people. It has nothing to do with gender. I feel like it’s easier to understand when you think about it in those terms.

Thanks for sharing!

hi, i’m a girl. and recently I broke up with my gf, we were dating for six moths,I feel bad and lost without her. I feel I can survive without her, but i don’t want to, she was like everything to me, and I just screwed everything up,it’s shitty. I guess, we broke up because I wanted too much from her, I pressed on her,and I know my fault, I know her fault. So, how do you think, do I have a chance to get her back? also, she said her feelings is not so strong how it used to be, and just idk. help?

You can survive without her and you will, even if it feels like you’re drowning without her. It’s not true, you’re not actually drowning, it only feels that way. And it won’t feel like that forever.

Time helps. You need time. You’ll start to breathe normally again and you’ll live your life and spend time with your family and your friends and someday you’ll realize you moved on. You’ll realize that it doesn’t hurt as much anymore. You’ll find someone else, something that I know seems like it’s impossible and something that you don’t even want in the least, but the point is that there is a future for you without her. You’re so young. I promise you, it hurts for a while, but it gets better.

Don’t try to get her back. Why do you want someone back who says they don’t even feel as strongly about you as they used to? You have to know when to let go, when to recognize that a relationship is ending and should end. Accept it, grieve for it, and then move on.

You are strong enough to get through this. Heartbreak helps you understand and appreciate love far more than those who have never had their hearts broken. It’s a way of life and it’s getting you one step closer to finding the person you ARE meant to be with.