Author: sumptuousdaydreams

Well, my girlfriend and I have been dating a while now, and I really wanna start doing more than just kissing. How do I go about knowing if she’s ready to do it too, ’cause I don’t have like any experience with this sorta thing….

You can go for “the talk” and directly ask her about having sex and say what you’re ready for OR you could let your hands do some exploring and see where she says stop and THEN have a conversation.

Either way, you’ll be having “the talk”. There’s no getting past it. Woman up and let your girl know what you’re thinking. You can start by asking or you can start by showing, it’s up to you. Just don’t go too fast or push too far. What you’re doing is testing the waters to see where she is with all this. Because, honestly, sometimes you don’t even know what you’re ready for until you’re in the moment and there’s a line crossed that sets off the “not ready!” alarms.

Figure it out together. That’s the most important thing. You’re not on an island while she’s on the mainland. You guys are in it together. Work together. Be a team. You’ll find your way TOGETHER.

My guy will not go down on me. It makes me feel disgusting. He won’t even try it. I know it’s not because I smell because I’m all about being clean and making sure I’m clean before entering the bedroom. My vagina also looks totally normal. I just don’t get it. He says he doesn’t really like fingering either, but can tolerate it.

DUMP. THAT. DOUCHEBAG. ASSHOLE.

I’m not joking. Dump him now. Call him and tell him to go fuck himself.

No one should make you feel that way. You are NOT disgusting. If he has a problem with sex (yes, fingering and oral are indeed a vital aspect of sex as a whole) then why the hell would you want to waste another single, solitary, second on some asshole who doesn’t know what the fuck he’s doing and treating you like shit because of it?

He’ll “tolerate” fingering? How about tolerating your boot up his ass? Cause that’s what he deserves for being such a stupid, selfish, prick.

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When my girlfriend and I have sex I can always make her cum from the front and squirt at the same time but when I’m fingering her from behind it more difficult and almost impossible.. Any advice?

It’s all about the angles! You have to be able to hit the right spots and doing it backwards changes up your whole thought process. You’re used to doing it the way that has proven “successful” and now you rely on that too much.

You have a routine but that can also be seen as a rut when it comes to sex. You have to change it up, try hitting different places until you find what works the same as it does when you’re fucking her from the front. Experiment. Maybe try some toys. Point is, you can’t do the same things when you’re in a different position. You have to adapt!

Every time my boyfriend and I are about to have sex he isn’t hard. I tried hand jobs and blowing him..but it doesn’t work. Idk what to think or do anymore and this already happened twice..

Twice? How many times have you tried it and it’s worked?

If it’s seriously impacting your sex life then you do need to talk to him. It’s his issue. Something is going on with him. Whether it’s physical or mental, I don’t know. But it’s not you, I promise. Physical stimulation produces an automatic, involuntary response in men so if he’s not reacting to that then there’s definitely something wrong. ED is a super sensitive topic with men, it’s basically calling into question their masculinity and purpose as a man – all society based concepts that are so ridiculous and unfair to men. It is nothing to be ashamed of. It doesn’t mean they’re any less of a man just because they’re having an issue.

85% of the causes of ED are attributed to physical issues that can be resolved! You just need to see a doctor about it. If it’s not physical, the most common psychological factors are depression, anxiety, and stress. Do you notice him going through anything recently, acting differently than he usually does. Because that could be it right there.

He likely feels really embarrassed about this (which he shouldn’t) and he might try to avoid discussing it so you’ll have to push a little bit. Try to be as compassionate as possible and talk about it candidly with him. It’s affecting your sex life, so something has to be done. You guys need to have a real conversation. If you don’t, it’s the pink elephant in the room, and it’s going to get so awkward and uncomfortable that you guys will end up going your separate ways.

It’s not an easy thing to address. Just remember compassion, don’t be condescending or blame him for anything. He can’t help it and neither can you. Confront it together, as a team, instead of putting it all on him with an attitude of “why can’t you do this?”

If it happens once or twice, that’s nothing to worry about. If it’s more than that, then there’s a cause for concern. TALK!

My boyfriend was fingering me and so I decided to pull his pants down and give him a hand job and about 30 seconds later he came all over me. He felt so embarrassed because he never came that fast before. Was it because of what I was wearing? I wore a red tube top (I look good In red) and black sweat pants and panties. No bra. It really caught me by surprise but he looked so asking me if I was okay.

Hi.I had sex for the first time last year but i didn’t enjoy it like when i masturbate.i’m addicted to masturbation since i’m 13 now 19.i feel so ashamed about it :(i want to stop masturbating @( a)i am afraid to loose him when he finds out

Uh, what exactly qualifies as addiction? How many times a day are you masturbating? Cause it’s really totally normal, even if it’s every day.

Sex for the first time is almost never good in the sense of purely physical pleasure. Practice makes perfect. The more you do it, the better it gets because not only does your body adapt, but you start learning about what you need to do to make it good.

If you’ve been having sex for a year with this guy and it’s not as good as what you do alone then you have two options to consider.

A) He’s a dud in bed and you need to break up. ‘Cause, really, what’s the point?

B) You might be too inhibited during sex and instead of showing him what you like/need, you’re holding back out of shyness, embarrassment, whatever. You can’t rely on the other person to know everything that makes you tick. You have to help them get to know you. Guide them. Don’t leave them hanging. You know what works for you, now you have to teach your partner to do it. Sex is about teamwork. You have to let someone else help you out now instead of doing all the work yourself.

Is it normal to be sexually aroused in the morning than any other time of day?

Yup! It’s really common for people to like morning sex. Men and women! Everyone has a “time of day” which means a general point of peak arousal. Not all people like morning sex, some prefer afternoon, late night, etc. It’s all just about what works for you and what your body craves!