Author: sumptuousdaydreams

Any tips/advice for first time rimming? gf and I are concerned about hygiene. We’re monogamous and std free. I know tongue can’t go directly directly from anus to vag, but can we catch anything orally from analingus (even after douching and shower)?

Douching is for the vagina… It has no bearing on anal sex. If you meant an enema, then NO. Enema = bad. It dries you out and makes you more prone to tearing. It’s unnecessary.

You can contract anything from unprotected oral sex – cunnilingus or anilingus. So if you’re really serious about protecting yourself, use a dental dam.

But, yes, in addition to STD’s, there are other things you can contract from rimming – such as bacterial diseases, intestinal parasites, or an infection like conjunctivitis. This can be avoided with thorough cleaning (you do NOT need to use an enema) and, obviously, don’t double dip. Just take a shower before and after. Scrub and soap each other up! Nice and clean. That’s all you need. (You can even use a wet finger in there to clean out any remains if you feel it necessary.)

Simple things like that will suffice in protecting you from the additional risks of anal play. But always remember that STD’s are just as easily contracted from anal as they are from vaginal. So don’t say you weren’t warned!

TIPS FOR RIMMING:

1. Use your breath. Blow warm air onto the anus and the skin surrounding it, or just hover above and breathe against it. Stimulates the nerves without you even having to touch anything!

2. Use your tongue. Lick it with a flat tongue, flick it, rub and push against the general backside region, or you can harden your tongue to penetrate, probe, tap and trace the rim. Start off with a nice flat tongue and work your way up to the tongue fuck.

3. Use your lips. Kiss and suck the asshole, taint, inner thighs, crack of the ass, buttocks, lower back and the back of the legs. Just use it all. Same as you would when eating pussy!

4. Use your fingers and hands. Finger the asshole gently and pull apart the butt cheeks. You also can reach around from behind and play with her pussy, clit, etc. Don’t use the same hand!

5. Use your teeth. As long as you are only doing little nibbles or gentle love bites — don’t bite to bruise in this instance, it’s unsafe. Nip her ass cheeks!

7. Positions: Sit on your partners face – Entwine yourself in a 69 -Lay face down with pillows under your hips, so your hips and ass are raised in the air for better access – Get on all fours, arch your back, spread your knees and ass cheeks apart – Lie on your back with a pillow under your ass, lifting it up in the air – Lie on your back, pulling your ankles to your ears, and expose your hole – Stand facing the wall, or bend from your waist, with your legs spread wide.

Is anal sex messy? My guy wants to try it and I’m really only opposed on the grounds that I’m a germaphobe.

Sex is always messy. Anal sex is messier than vaginal, but just like vaginal, if you do it right and you use protection, it’s all good! If you’re a germaphobe then don’t try rimming (tonguing ass). Germs aren’t a problem if you’re using protection and you don’t do stupid things like go from ass to pussy using the same condom…

Try to use the bathroom at least an hour before, have several condoms on hand for switching, use lots of lube, and take a hot shower after!

It’s always good to try something at least once. If it doesn’t do it for you, there’s nothing wrong with telling your boyfriend that. There are plenty of different things you can experiment with that doesn’t have to do with anal!

Hey, so i need like advice and it would be really good if u could help. So the problem is that im a virgin and i need to keep it till marriage but i kind of love masturbating and im scared if i do something wrong im gonna lose it. Would you tell me what to do? like what would be the best option for me to do :S

The only way you stop being a virgin is when you have sex with someone else. Plain and simple.

Hello, so I need like advice. Um so me and this girl have been talking for about 4 months and we have gotten to really like each other but the only problem is that she lives 2,000+ miles away from me and we are both very sexually frustrated. We’ve been told that we should try this thing were we both find someone to take the sexual frustration out on but continue talking how we are now. I honestly dont want to but I dont want her to think I’m being selfish or anything.

I can’t help you on this one. I have yet to figure out the solution myself. You don’t want to be selfish, you don’t want them with other people, you yourself don’t want anyone else, but you can’t have the person you want so you’re basically just fucked and not in the way you want to be.You try to be selfless and then it backfires in 10 different ways and deep down you’re really feeling like they should try to be with someone else since you know you can’t give them what they need but you still really like them and the thought of them with someone else is godawful…

I mean, I’m just guessing. That’s what I assume it’s like… Right?

*ahem* Uh, yeah. Soooooo…if you figure it out, please let me know! I would love to have an answer for this. And so would many others.

I’m bisexual and my boyfriend and I already agreed that we don’t want to have a threesome even if we fantasize about it. the problem is that we’re currently having a loing distance relationship and will be for the rest of the month… and since he left i think about girls a lot… and i know he probably does the same (isn’t that what guys do? idk) but i still feel like cheating him and i feel so guilty even if he remains my main naught thought…

Everyone has thoughts and fantasies. It’s normal. The only time that it becomes a problem is when you cross the line between thinking about it and actually wanting to do it/doing it.

If you’re seriously considering cheating on your boyfriend, if you’ve reached that point where you would want to be with another person, then yeah, it’s time to reevaluate what your situation is.

If you’re just fantasizing about other people, that’s totally okay. You’re not cheating on him by having fantasies. If you daydream about having sex with…Amber Heard, for example, that’s not cheating. If you fantasize about having sex with one of your friends, that’s not cheating.

However, if you start thinking that you really want to follow through with it and have sex with someone else, then that’s an emotional betrayal, and if you actually have sex or even just kiss someone else…it’s cheating. There’s a significant difference between having a fantasy and something that you would do in reality.

Some things to think about.

my boyfriend ate me out for the my first time and i thought it was supposed to feel really good like everyone says but it gave me no pleasure, it just felt like i was being licked:/ is it me? is it him? i want it to feel good but idk what he can do or how i can tell him

It’s you and it’s him. You have to relax more and it sounds like he needs to learn what spots to hit and what RHYTHM means.

You can actually help him with this. When you try again, try giving him a little more direction, lead him to the spots that you know work for you and ask him to speed up the pace. Pay attention to the little things that spark and you can gasp and tell him to keep doing that. You have to give it time, breathe, and keep asking him to change it up if it’s not working. Go faster, go there, go here, down, up, in, out, suck, whatever!

If you felt like you were just being licked, then that’s all that was happening. Not good.

You can’t lick pussy like it’s a lollipop.

You need to fucking devour it.