Author: sumptuousdaydreams

Is it wrong I’m cheating on my boyfriend with a girl? I think I’m lesbian I like men but not sexually so I’ve been having sex with my bestfriend I don’t know if to tell him?

Yup. You’re cheating. It’s wrong. Break up with your boyfriend. Stop being an asshole.

Hi, I’m sorry for this really weird question…Okay so I am a virgin, and I have a new boyfriend and he’s been like rubbing me (’cause I don’t want his fingers in my yet). It feels fantastic, and I get super wet, but he always asks me if I have cum yet, and I don’t know? Sometimes I just say yes because I think he is tired, or I say no because I want him to keep going. But how do I know if i came?

You’ll know. And don’t lie about orgasming – you’ll give him the wrong idea about what works for you and he’ll develop terrible habits and it’ll kill your sex life. Plus, honesty = best policy. Don’t let him pressure you to say you’ve orgasmed just cause he’s tired. If he’s tired, then okay, it’s not going to happen that time. Just enjoy the pleasure and work up to it. (You can also take turns with each other so it gives him a break and some pleasure then you can ask him to touch you again and keep going.) Just don’t lie to him to appease him!

You will know when you’ve had an orgasm. You haven’t had one yet.

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for quiet a while now and she’s a virgin I’m not, I’m a girl btw. So lately we’ve been going pretty far and i feel like she will soon be ready to have sex with me but the thing is that she’s really gentle, soft. She touches and kisses me so gently and I love it but I do want her to get rough sometimes but I don’t think she can.. Twice now she has pinned me to a wall and kissed me but its dif in bed. Advice please?:)

Once she becomes more comfortable with sex and you guys become more comfortable with each other, I guarantee you’ll get that rougher side. Rough sex ultimately comes from confidence and being secure with yourself. You feel like you know what you’re doing, you trust the person you’re with, you feel like you can expose more of yourself, that’s when it will happen.

If it doesn’t happen after you guys have had sex for a few months, then you can bring it up and just flat out ask her to take you hard! If you’re not comfortable asking for that, then you need to evaluate the level of trust and communication in your relationship and how to improve it.

Really, just give her time. She’s inexperienced! It’s all new to her! Once she feels better and more confident about what she’s doing, she’ll surprise you and probably literally knock you off your feet! 😉

Hi i am a virgin! I masturbate casually though and recently i found out i squirt -.- at first i thought i peed myself but its happend 3 times since, i try peeing beforehand to stop it but i cant, any tips on how? Its really embarrasing and i dont want to squirt during sex

Squirting is awesome, consider yourself lucky, don’t be embarrassed, it’s all good stuff!! ENJOY IT.

How is it possible for two lesbians to lose the virginity? Sorry for my english, but I m italian

When they have sex.

Whatever form of sex they choose, oral, fingering, scissoring, any of it, is when they lose their “virginity”. Heterosexual sex is defined by penetration, but that’s not all there is to sex! So, for lesbians, it’s what they personally define as “sex”. Not all lesbians agree on what crosses the line from foreplay to sex, it’s a subjective circumstance. So it’s different for each couple.

Okay so I have been sexually active with my boyfriend for about a year now. He was my first so I have nothing to compare him to, but I really don’t feel like he’s doing anything wrong. The thing is, I can not reach an orgasm. The sex itself is fantastic but there is no release. No end result for me. We can for long enough that it actually starts to hurt but I have never had an orgasm, not vaginal nor clitoral. Is there any logical reason for this?

First, do you orgasm when you masturbate? If you don’t masturbate, you need to start. If you do orgasm when you masturbate, then obviously there’s things you need to work on in your sex life. If you don’t orgasm when you masturbate, then there’s things you need to work on with yourself before applying it to your sex life.

You said it yourself, you don’t have anything to compare it to, so how do you know that there aren’t things he could be doing/doing better? You’re not having an orgasm and it’s been a year. Not good! It’s unfortunately normal for women not to experience an orgasm during sex and that’s usually due to a lack of foreplay, understanding of the female body, and the woman’s ability to relax.

So my advice is to change it up. Take control or have him surprise you. Make it rougher, make it sweeter. Oral is your best friend. Have him go down on you until you’re right on the breaking point and then take it over the edge with penetration. Don’t hold back. It seems like that’s what happens the most. Women hold back and fight their orgasms instead of embracing them.

Encourage him to try different things, different positions, a different location, roleplay, use toys, etc. ANYTHING different from what you’re doing now. Because what is happening now, isn’t good enough. You can check the sex advice tags page for tips on positions and oral sex. Have him read it as well.

Im a lesbian and ive had many sexual partners but ive rarely been on the recieving end. When i have its not really done much for me.. neither has masturbation. But giving really get me going. Ive only ever cum while giving. Is it normal?

We all need to stop asking about what’s normal and what’s not when it comes to sex. You like giving, you like being in a position of control, that’s the most arousing and sexually gratifying place for you. If you are receiving sexual pleasure from what you describe as “giving” then keep working it!

You don’t have to be on your back in order to receive sexual pleasure, remember that.

If you’re getting off on it, if you’re having orgasms, if you’re truly satisfied with your sex life (and your partner is satisfied), then what on earth could be wrong with that?

I lied to my partner of 8 months about how many people I’d been with and I’m not sure if I should tell them or not. They’re the first person I’ve done things with but I said that I’d been with more people besides them because i didn’t want to seem inexperienced. Was it wrong of me to lie about that to them?

Lying is bad. Yes. But it isunderstandable in your case. You didn’t lie about cheating. You didn’t lie about having an STD or anything that could hurt your partner – just that you didn’t have sex with anyone before them.

It’s been 8 months! Come clean. It’ll feel so much better not to have that “secret” weighing on you. I think your partner will just be confused as to why you didn’t tell them the truth in the beginning. It’s such a silly thing to lie about. I know you were lying because you were embarrassed, but there is nothing to be embarrassed about! Inexperience is nothing to be embarrassed about. There are a lot of people who find it really intimate to be someone’s first. They don’t see it as something annoying or to be bothered about. When you care about a person and you’re in a relationship with them, being first can be a wonderful thing.

You shouldn’t have lied to your partner, but I understand why you did. Tell them the truth and they’ll understand too. Even if they’re a little hurt that you didn’t trust them enough to tell them in the beginning. Better late than never.

I have a feeling your partner will be mostly upset that they didn’t know it was your first time and probably kick themselves – wish they did something different. By lying, you did take away their ability to make different choices about your sexual relationship. Not that they wouldn’t want one anymore, just the way they would have gone about it. That’s really what it comes down to – you didn’t give them a choice. And that’s a little sad. It can’t be changed now, but it’s okay though because it still worked out and you guys are 8 months in! 🙂

Just tell them. It’ll only help your relationship by being honest and you’re clearly bothered by keeping this from them.