My girlfriend and I split up recently, but we ended on good terms. We parted because she didn’t want a long distance relationship, though I was willing to try it out with her. She left and we still occasionally text, but she doesn’t really reply me or talk to me as much anymore. I don’t know if I should move on or not because she made me so many promises right before she left, so I’m really confused about what to do. I still love her, and I want her to be happy, but this is killing me. Help?

It sounds like she’s moving on. If she said she doesn’t want long distance and you guys officially broke up, then the other stuff she said was probably a way to let you (and herself) down easy – trying to soften the blow and all that.

It seems pretty clear that she ended it. You parted ways on good terms and sometimes that can be confusing when you don’t have that FINALITY that helps with moving on.

If it helps, maybe you could write her an email or text her, telling her that there’s no hard feelings, but you don’t want to leave anything open ended. No promises for the future. That you want for both of you to go your separate ways and maybe even tell her that you’re glad your paths crossed for a while. This way YOU get to break up with her as well and it can be that feeling of finality that you need in order to move on too.

Always make a clean break (if possible). I would suggest no more contact with each other (at least for a long while). You need time to truly separate and you can’t do that if you’re still occasionally in touch with your ex that you have feelings for. Make the break and give yourself time to heal without any lingering confusion.