My boyfriend just told me he doesn’t enjoy the “Daddy-Dom” lifestyle and he does not enjoy woman that do… This is all I’m about. All day everyday it’s what I want crave and need… We compromise very well, but my obsession vs his repulsion will not work out.. He refuses to break up, but I don’t see how we can jump this hurtle.

I don’t see how you can get past it either. It’s a very fundamental difference in your sexual needs. You’re not getting what you want (and neither is he) so how is this a relationship that has a future?

He can’t refuse to break up with you. Both of you are still holding on to somehow making it work. But with this, there’s no compromise that will be satisfying enough. You’re hoping he’ll somehow grow to like it and he’s hoping that you’ll grow out of wanting it. It’s not going to happen. People don’t change like that and it’s unrealistic (not to mention unfair) to expect them to.

Many relationships end because of crossed wires or lack of spark in the sex department. It’s okay. You’re allowed to break up with someone for that. You’re allowed to want more sexually. I’m sure you both care about each other a lot, but this is definitely one of the “deal breakers”. It’s not shallow or wrong to end it because of different sexual desires. Give yourselves permission to find more fulfilling relationships by going separate ways.

He can’t refuse to break up with you if you actually MEAN it when you do it. It has to be something you genuinely want, otherwise you’re just going to be treading water – going nowhere.