(Part 1) Hi! So I have a few questions. Well, I’m a virgin and i have a bf who’s had sex before, he has assured me that he understands me and I’ve slowly allowed for other things such as fingering and giving him a handjob… so I’ve been thinking of

(Part 2) going all the way but idk. He doesn’t want to use protection
cuz it’d be my first time and I kind of want to that way but I’m not
sure if the day after pill would be good enough? Also, Idk how to give a
bj, like are u supposed to swallow the cum?

(Part3)
And idk, I’m just kinda freaked out that I won’t do things
‘well’. Please help, he’s the first person I’d do these things with and
you know, first time and all that. I feel so lame asking this 😳 also, I
sometimes feel,Idk embarrassed

(Part4) of my body &whether or not he’ll enjoy stuff 😯 I’m
hopeless. Please help. (Sorry for not sending a single ask but I’m on my
phone which has a letter-limit) Thank you in advance~ a hopeless, naive
virgin

You have to use protection. Whether it’s a condom, a diaphragm, birth control pill, nuva ring, whatever. You cannot have sex without protection because you will very likely get pregnant. Unprotected sex = pregnancy = babies. The morning after pill is not meant to be used as a normal contraceptive. It’s a “in case of emergency” pill. In case the condom rips or there was some kind of an accident or if you were raped. It is NOT something you use after you have sex every time. It’s not designed to be used that way and it’s not safe for you to use like that.

Go on the pill. If you take it within 5 days after the start of your period, you’ll be protected from pregnancy. If taken at any other time, it’ll take 7 days for it to go into effect. See a doctor.

If you do not know one of the methods that I mentioned, then you shouldn’t be having sex yet. You need to be better informed and the best way to do that is to find a health clinic and talk to a medical professional who can give you all the information you need as well as provide you with an effective form of birth control.

Now, being on the pill prevents pregnancy, but does not protect you from STD’s or HIV. A guy telling you that he doesn’t want to use protection? Well, I can tell you from experience he’s likely had unprotected sex before. Probably with more than one girl. So now you’re putting yourself at serious risk with only “his word” to go by. Protect YOURSELF. Stand up for YOURSELF and your HEALTH. Just use a lubricated condom – it’s not going to make or break the deal. He shouldn’t have asked you that to begin with! It’s just stupid and incredibly irresponsible!

I’ve already answered many questions about BJ’s and first times. Take a look at the Sex Advice Tags page and browse through it. All your questions will be answered in there. “Oral” and “How To” will probably be the best ones to help you with what you’re looking for.

Be smart, protect yourself, and don’t ever rely on anyone else to do that for you. Sex can be an incredible experience or it can be a nightmare. Being informed, mature, and responsible will lead to it being a great experience.