To the anon who didn’t feel she could have toys, you could always get one of those three or four legged back massagers from Walmart or somewhere, if you want to go the vibration route. They’re pretty cheap, usually fairly quiet, and your family won’t think of it as a sex toy; they might even ask to borrow it (learned that from experience). You can always just say you need it for your shoulders or neck to help relax before bed! That’s what I did for my first one :)