I’m a guy and when me and my gf have sex she always cums first and I mean I don’t mind I feel great that she’s enjoying it but she gets upset that I never cum, she’s never masturbated and I have, so how can I make it mutual? Any advice?

It’s a simple matter of her wanting to see you lose a bit of control. She ALWAYS orgasms first? Then you have (or she has) to finish you off manually or orally? I think it’s great that you look out for her needs, but you’re either holding back a lot or she’s doing something that you’re not into. If you need her to do something differently, just tell her. She WANTS sex to be just as good for you as it is for her.

When you never just “slip up” and get so into it that you can’t help but fucking blow it before you’re “supposed to”….she can tell you’re holding back and that’s frustrating. It’s also a little disappointing because she wants to know that she’s attractive and sexy enough to make you want to blow your wad right then and there!

Simultaneous orgasms are possible, but you have to work a bit harder for them. The best thing you can do is communicate during sex, be aware of how close she is to orgasm. You should be able to see signs of it (when you’re with someone for a while, it’s easier). She can also verbalize it for you (“I’m so close”), but your best bet is to know exactly what turns her on and exactly when she’s going to orgasm. When she starts getting close, that’s when you need to time your orgasm to match hers.

It’ll be trial and error, but when you see her getting closer, you can feel it/see it/hear it, that’s when you speed up and do whatever you need to do to cum yourself. If you can time it so you’re 5 seconds after her – that would be awesome. Simultaneous orgasms are difficult but achievable if you get your timing down. Takes practice. Most people don’t think to do that which is what leads to the issue of guys always coming faster. You have to actually THINK about working together to cum together. 😉

While you’re trying the “focusing on timing” method. Maybe a few times you can get a little raunchy/wilder than usual, and go all out. Cum while you’re inside of her. Cum before her. Then eat her out or finger fuck her until SHE comes. It’s changing it up. Instead of her finishing you off, finish her off. Either way, you both should always be taken care of!

Have fun!