is it possible that i dont have a clitoris. I looked in the mirror and pulled up my clitoral hood and didnt see a button-like piece of skin. and if i touch it I dont feel any pleasure.

I’m sure anything is possible? But it’s really…really…really…REALLY unlikely that you have a massive birth defect like that. You would have had surgeries and been told…etc.

Point is, the clitoris is not an instant pleasure button that you can poke once and orgasm because of it. (Hell, our lives would be so fucking nice if that was true…) It doesn’t really look like a “button” – it’s a pinkish/reddish nubbin?

Try getting in the mood and when you’re wet/aroused/super turned on  – try playing with your clit (or where you think it should be). Try touching it lightly in circles, see what happens! Also, it swells when you’re sexually aroused so it becomes more prominent and you’ll be able to see it more easily then.

Another picture to help you out…