Me and my girlfriend have been dating for quiet a while now and she’s a virgin I’m not, I’m a girl btw. So lately we’ve been going pretty far and i feel like she will soon be ready to have sex with me but the thing is that she’s really gentle, soft. She touches and kisses me so gently and I love it but I do want her to get rough sometimes but I don’t think she can.. Twice now she has pinned me to a wall and kissed me but its dif in bed. Advice please?:)

Once she becomes more comfortable with sex and you guys become more comfortable with each other, I guarantee you’ll get that rougher side. Rough sex ultimately comes from confidence and being secure with yourself. You feel like you know what you’re doing, you trust the person you’re with, you feel like you can expose more of yourself, that’s when it will happen.

If it doesn’t happen after you guys have had sex for a few months, then you can bring it up and just flat out ask her to take you hard! If you’re not comfortable asking for that, then you need to evaluate the level of trust and communication in your relationship and how to improve it.

Really, just give her time. She’s inexperienced! It’s all new to her! Once she feels better and more confident about what she’s doing, she’ll surprise you and probably literally knock you off your feet! 😉