Hello, so I need like advice. Um so me and this girl have been talking for about 4 months and we have gotten to really like each other but the only problem is that she lives 2,000+ miles away from me and we are both very sexually frustrated. We’ve been told that we should try this thing were we both find someone to take the sexual frustration out on but continue talking how we are now. I honestly dont want to but I dont want her to think I’m being selfish or anything.

I can’t help you on this one. I have yet to figure out the solution myself. You don’t want to be selfish, you don’t want them with other people, you yourself don’t want anyone else, but you can’t have the person you want so you’re basically just fucked and not in the way you want to be.You try to be selfless and then it backfires in 10 different ways and deep down you’re really feeling like they should try to be with someone else since you know you can’t give them what they need but you still really like them and the thought of them with someone else is godawful…

I mean, I’m just guessing. That’s what I assume it’s like… Right?

*ahem* Uh, yeah. Soooooo…if you figure it out, please let me know! I would love to have an answer for this. And so would many others.