so my girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for a little more than 2 years. I’m a guy and we have slowly moved from kissing, all the way to sex and I have had many orgasms and I find them amazing but my girlfriend has not. I have tried fingering her, and she stops me because she doesnt like the feeling of fingers (idk). I tried Oral and she told me it feels weird and shed prefer kissing me. She also stops me while having sex. Ive nearly gotten her to orgasm but she stops me. any advice?

She’s never gotten close to an orgasm. That’s why she stops you. What you’re doing isn’t working so rather than wait and be uncomfortable and bored while you continue to draw out something pointless that doesn’t do anything for her, she just stops you. Then she makes up an excuse as to why she doesn’t want it.

Now, she’s not telling you the truth because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, but I’ll tell you because you need to know. It’s not working.

My advice is to read through the tags I have here, read some “how to” guides, and stop doing the same stuff you always do. You have to figure out something different (there’s a ton of suggestions in the tags).

Some basic tips: surprise her, give her a massage (A REAL ONE -MASSAGE OILS, LONG TIME, THOROUGH), do a ton of foreplay without penetration – just rub and grind, get her so worked up that she wants to take control, encourage her to be on top, and don’t jump right into oral – do a lot of making out and humping before you go down on her and then you need to find a rhythm with your tongue to hit her erogenous zones. Best way to do that is to have her guide you.

She needs to open up and trust you (that’s something you have to work on with your relationship as a whole, not just sexually) and you need to try new things. Work together or it’s not gonna happen.