How do you have rough sex? My gf (we are both girls) seems to really want it but i have no idea how to? the idea turns me on as much as it scares me. Im not really sure if i am scared because i have no idea what to do or the idea that i might hurt her; though i think it is both actually. Any advice for a first timer? She thinks i am too vanilla and i want to tell her i am not just that i am not sure how to

Take baby steps. You don’t have to jump in all at once. Try little things to experiment and see how it works for you, WHAT works for you. Being rough doesn’t mean you have to start slapping her around and flogging her!

Try some light spanking, scratching, hair pulling, biting, dirty talk. Have a safe word. Test each other’s limits, learn them. You could bind her hands and use a strap on, that’s hot, and it’s not overly rough, it’s more about dominance.

Try being more dominant, exerting more power during sex, more authority, more control. That’s where you start and that’s how you can show her that you’re not so vanilla after all. SHOW, don’t just tell. 😉

Rough sex is not always about the kinky stuff with toys – it starts with the psychological elements of dominant and submissive. One partner usually likes a little pain and the other likes to take control and get an adrenaline rush that way. It’s different for everyone. Don’t be afraid to get into it. That’s what a safe word is for, just in case anyone oversteps, and that’s how you learn limits. You can’t hold back otherwise it won’t be as good.

Talk about your fantasies. Discuss the things, kinks, that turn you on or that you’ve always thought about wanting to try. Let yourself go, let your emotions take over, find your baser sexual urges and tap into them! Getting rough requires trust and sexual freedom. If you don’t have sexual self confidence, then you’re not going to be able to release yourself fully.

Trust, let go, and fuck your girl exactly the way you want to fuck her.

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