does confidence have any effect on the ability to orgasm? I’ve been with a handful of girls and have made only a few cum. One was a very self confident girl and we had great sex and I was able to make her cum on average 4 times before I do, but this new girl I’m with I’m her first partner, and I’ve tried everything but I can’t make her cum. She’s not as confident as my other partners. I still haven’t seen her breasts because she won’t let me. she’d let me lick her all night and day though

Self confidence leads to being more comfortable and being comfortable means you’re relaxed and being relaxed means you’re more willing to let yourself be open and FEEL.

So, yes, confidence has a huge impact on whether or not a girl orgasms. It really does take two when it comes to sex. Women need to learn how to ACCEPT an orgasm and men need to learn all the right ways to give them one. It’s teamwork.

Help your girlfriend with her confidence. Build her up. Work on trust. Be patient. Listen to her. Get to know her needs and what she likes. It’ll happen.

Always remember though: all girls are different.

They like different things, different methods turn them on or turn them off, what works for one girl might not work for another. There’s no “one size fits all” concept when it comes to sex. Everyone is unique and that’s one of the best parts – learning everything there is to know about each person. So if you’re just repeating the same things you did with other girls and not changing it up based on the girl you’re with, that could be a big part of the problem as well.

You have to adapt to each individual’s sexual needs.