Hi, I’m in an awesome relationship with the most wonerful boy on earth. We have sex maybe once in a week, it’s pretty good, we both cum everytime but it’s pretty boring actually. I’ve told him many times that I want him to pull my hair, bite my neck etc and fuck me really hard, but he’s so careful, says he doesn’t want to hurt me and so on… What should I do? We have been together for 7 months and we always do the same stuff. And he doesn’t want me to give him oral sex witch is disturbing.

What is his reasoning for not wanting you to go down on him? Maybe if you figure out what he’s REALLY worried about then you guys can fix the problem.

I’d also try to push the envelope a little bit with him in bed. Just test the waters to see how he reacts when you get a little rough. If you want to go hard, get on top and fuck him senseless. Show him that it doesn’t hurt you and how good it can be. Don’t go too far though and make him uncomfortable, just try something a little outside the norm and see if he’s okay with it.

So talk and try to take the lead a bit.