So, I am a virgin. And I was talking to my mom and her friends about oral sex and I mentioned that you should always use protection if you are unsure 100% if they are clean… And well they all laughed at me and told me no one does that. So, my question is if I suggest oral protection while in the moment, will I be laughed out of bed? Should I go with what I am comfortable or give that up cause apparently NO ONE uses condoms or dental dams in ‘real life’? Am I being too concerned about this?

It’s true that most people don’t practice safe sex when it comes to oral. They take a risk. That’s their right. It’s also true that most people don’t understand how much of a risk they’re taking.

You’re being smart about it. And while many DON’T use protection, there are also some that do. So you’re not alone, just in the minority (unfortunately). It’s reasons like this that we still have such a constant problem with the spread of STD’s. People aren’t protecting themselves enough. If you want to use a condom during a BJ (get a flavored one) then good for you! If you want someone to use a dental dam when going down on you, that’s great too. But you will meet resistance and people will try to talk you out of it because it’s “not as fun” and “doesn’t feel as good”. Ultimately, people don’t want to be bothered with it.

As always, protection is your right and your choice, but be prepared to face people ready to talk you out of it. Especially when it comes to oral sex because too many people are under the impression that if you can’t get pregnant from it, there’s no risk.

That’s ignorant as hell.