Okay so i’m 16 and a complete virgin and i’m dating a 19 year old whose very experienced. I was recently fingered for the first time by him and it felt amazing. Now he wants to go down on me really badly and I want to do it too, but my friend said that’s going too fast for someone like me who hasn’t done really much with guys and i don’t masturbate. But i was fine and loved it when he fingered me, am I allowed to let him go down on me?

The biggest problem you’re having right here is the fact that you’re letting your friend dictate what you’re “allowed” to do. That’s ridiculous. It’s their opinion, but you don’t have to agree with it. You do what feels right for YOU.

If you feel comfortable and you want to progress with your relationship, then that’s YOUR right! No one gets to tell you what you are or are not ready for. Are you young? Yes. But honestly, you’re not TOO young. If this is really what you want, not something you feel pressured into, then it’s okay. You’re exploring, experimenting, etc. Just don’t rush into anything. That’s all. And don’t do anything that makes you feel like you’re getting ahead of yourself. You have all the time in the world so don’t go running into the fray when you can just ease yourself into it. It doesn’t have to be a frantic, jumbled, rush. Take your time.

I do think it’s a good idea that you try masturbating! It will help you get to know your body instead of relying on your boyfriend to figure it out for you. Trust me when I say that will NOT go as planned. The more you know about what you like, the more you can help him, the better EVERYTHING will be.

Of course you’re allowed to let him go down on you if you want it! It’s YOUR body! YOUR relationship! People can weigh in with their opinions, but it’s always up to you in the end. If you want it, go for it! Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re wrong for wanting sex. There are no rules when it comes to being ready, it’s differerent for everyone. Some people are ready earlier in life, others feel better waiting.

There’s always one person that likes to take the plunge into a cold pool, all at once, and then there’s the other person that likes to slowly climb down the ladder into the water, inch by inch. Neither of them are wrong. It’s just a personal preference and what they feel comfortable in doing.