my girlfriend wants me to have sex with her, but we’re both under 16 and im terrified of sex lmao. ive made it clear i wont do it, and i know she wouldnt rape me, but she keeps pushing me. help?

Okay, well, one: why are you terrified of sex?

Two: Tell your girlfriend, with all honesty – no jokes, no room for misinterpretation – that you are NOT READY. Tell her that you need her to respect that and then draw a line. Tell her what you feel comfortable doing and where the line is for what you’re not ready to do. (Ie. Anything below the waist.)

If she doesn’t respect that, then you have a much bigger problem than a horny girlfriend and you might want to consider breaking up with her. Don’t ever let someone push you into doing something you don’t feel comfortable with. They don’t have that right. Girl or boy, it doesn’t matter.

You are both way too young. So tell her to slow down, that YOU need her to slow down, and see what happens. Sex will be there when you’re ready for it. There’s no rush. Seriously, it’s not a race! There’s no house on fire! If she’s horny, she can handle it herself. She’s not going to die if she doesn’t have sex.

Just make your boundaries clear and if she keeps pushing them, then you need to push back and show her just how serious you are. This isn’t a joke, this isn’t something she can seduce you into doing. Tell her to stop when she goes too far and if she doesn’t, end it with her. Because no one ever gets to do that to you. They’re not respecting your wishes and they’re not respecting YOU. No healthy relationship can work that way. It’s a fundamental issue of respect. If she shows none for you, then how can you be with her? Just draw the line.