Is it possible to be emotionally a lesbian but sexually straight? I’ve never had an emotional connection to guys like I have with women. Although I’m more attracted to a girls body and would rather be intimate with them, I can’t seem to hit the big O when I have sex with a girl. I have to think about guys to orgasm.

Anything is possible?

Honestly, I think you’re gay. lol. You’re a lesbian. It’s okay! haha.

I don’t think you picture guys during sex because you want to have sex with guys. The image of men, the stigma attached, especially sex with men, represents a more aggressive and dominating type of sex. That might be what you’re missing in your sex life, what you need to be able to orgasm.

Maybe you want that kind of forcefulness that you envision comes with a “dominating male” and you’re not getting that from your partners. Maybe you want a strap on used on you more often if penetration is what you’re looking for. Maybe it’s not the physical acts, but just the energy you need; you’re looking for a more “masculine” energy from your partner during sex. Maybe you need the sex to be rougher and and ramp up the intensity level. Maybe you’re not choosing the right girls to be with…

That’s a lot of maybe’s, I know! haha. Sorry. I can’t give you a definitive answer because I don’t know your particular reasons. Only you know the answer. I just tried to give you a few ideas and hopefully that will spark something for you and help you put together the pieces yourself.

Don’t be afraid to go after what you want/need when it comes to sex. It all starts with finding the right partner. 🙂

And if you truly think that you want to have sex with a guy, then by all means, try it out! What better way to know for sure then to actually experience it? After you have sex with a guy, you won’t doubt yourself anymore. Maybe it’ll turn out that you like both men and women! Maybe it’ll just reaffirm that you’re a lesbian. Maybe it’ll show that you do indeed enjoy sex more with men than women. Who knows? If you feel that strongly about it, then the only way to know is to test it out for yourself.