Check the nails.
If they’re reasonably short, go ahead to the second step. 😉
Talk about past relationships! Work it into the conversation. If you’ve dated a girl, mention that and see what her response is. If she’s into girls, you need to provide an opening for her to say “oh yeah I dated this girl once…” or “I would so sleep with her” etc.
If you admit to your sexual interests, it opens it up for her to reciprocate by admitting her own. Just bring it up in a casual dialogue and see what response you get.
You’d be surprised how easily that works. People are much more open about their sexuality now. Not everyone is, of course, but the number of people being open and comfortable with their sexuality grows every day. 🙂
If you’re friends with any of her friends or people she knows, ASK THEM! I’ve done it a thousand times. I meet someone that I’m curious about, but I don’t want to be forward, I talk to her friends. I’m usually pretty blunt with them (because I already know them) and I get my answers that way. Then I feel confident enough to approach!
So many girls are not what you would not expect because they’re not “stereotypical gay”. Many are actually quite open to being with other women. I’ve discovered many a bisexual just by asking her friends, lol.
Sorry, but even if you have the best “gaydar” in the world, there’s still no way to tell if someone is a lesbian or not. Lesbians don’t fit into one mold. There’s a certain “type” of course, which is usually the short hair and butch clothes/attitude, but that’s not always accurate. And there are many “femme” lesbians. Then there’s the girls that are bi and that’s just a crapshoot. So unless someone out there creates a device that you can point and scan people to determine their sexuality, we’re left with only one option: hearing it from that person (or one of their friends).
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