I have been thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. But im concerned as to our age difference…. Im 16 and he is 19….

If you’re uncomfortable with your age difference then that’s your answer right there.

16 and 19 is a big gap maturity wise. It’s not the same as someone who’s 25 having sex with someone who’s 28. The older you get, the less the age difference matters. But you’re at the crucial stage of your life where even just one year makes a big difference. You’re at completely different places in your life and you’re at very different stages of emotional maturity.

As far as the legality of it goes, I’m not really concerned about that. It’s about what you want and what you feel comfortable with. If it’s too intimidating or you don’t feel right about it, then don’t do it. Wait until you’re completely confident and self assured about your decision. Don’t go into having sex with doubts. You’re guaranteeing bad sex that way.

There’s nothing wrong with waiting another year or even just 6 months. You’re here telling me you’re concerned. That itself shows me that you’re not fully ready for this yet and that’s good! It’s fantastic that you’re actually listening to your instincts. They will only serve you well in life.

Just wait until you’re completely ready and a little older. There’s no reason to rush. Having sex without being fully confident that it’s what you want, and it’s who you want to be with, is just going to make you regret pushing yourself into it. You won’t be happy with your choice. You have all the time you need. It’s your decision and your say-so. It’s your life! Don’t let anyone else dictate it for you.