So I’m in middle school still and I’ve really wanted sex for awhile now. And I’ve always heard people at my school always having sex but I’ve never really wanted to try it after they have. I just don’t know what to do.

You. Are. A. Child.

Now, take all the offense to that as you want, but you know I’m right. I tell 16 year old’s to wait because I think that’s still too young. What do you think I’m going to say to you?

It is way too early. Way too soon. I promise you, whatever it is you hear people your age doing, they’re not enjoying it the way it’s supposed to be enjoyed. They’re doing it because they’re bored, or they’re curious, or they think it makes them cool. NO. Sex doesn’t actually start to be good until you’re much older, when people actually know what they’re doing. I guarantee you, none of the people you’ve heard about have the slightest clue what they’re doing.

You’re naturally curious about it. That’s normal! You want to know what the big deal is. But thinking about it and actually doing it are, obviously, two very different things. You don’t need to have sex yet. And if you try right now, it’s only going to be a let down. I promise, all you’ll think is “that’s it?” and instantly be disappointed. You’ll also regret it. Sex is not all it’s cracked up to be. You want to wait until you’re older, in a relationship, and you’ve already tried everything else that leads up to having sex with that person. That’s what makes it good: being in the right stage of your life and being with the right person.

Having sex just because you want to try it never works and always ends up being a huge disappointment. Ignore the gossip, focus on yourself. If you’re horny, masturbate! Get to know your body, learn all your turn-on’s – what works and what doesn’t. That’s the first step towards embracing your sexual desires.

I promise you, you do not want to have sex right now. It will suck. It will be absolutely awful. You’ll wonder why the hell you ever wanted to try this and what the big deal is about it because it was just weird and lasted for all of 8.6 seconds. What’s so great about that?

Please trust me on this. Put off considering having sex for a few more years and just focus on more important things in your life: friends, family, school, etc. That’s all that you need to think about. Sex will happen later and, if you wait, you’ll be doing yourself a huge favor that the people you’ve heard about will envy you for. You waited, and when you eventually have sex, with someone you care about, it’s going to be so much better than anything they ever experienced.

Be smart. Think for yourself. Don’t compare yourself to what others are doing and think you have to do it too just to keep up.

This is cliche, but it’s still oh-so-true: if everyone is jumping off a bridge, does that mean you’re going to jump off too?