hi, i was the one who asked about the boyfriend hurting while fingering me thing. the thing is, he has had sex quite a few times and has had his share of other sexual experiences. and he said that he’s never had a girl feel like that before? do i have some overly sensitive vagina or something?? haha idk whats wrong with me! &how would i tell him to do that?? just ask him to be more slow and work his way up?

Yes!

Just because the other girls didn’t have an issue (or likely didn’t TELL him there was an issue) doesn’t mean that you have to be the same as them. Every girl is different. What worked for them, obviously is not working for you. So tell your guy what you need and he’ll learn that not all girls like the same thing in the same way. You have to adapt and change it up for each person. There’s nothing wrong with you. He just seems to be under the impression that there’s one standard method that works every time when that is far…far…far…from the reality.

Some girls are tighter than others. Just the way your body is. Tell your boyfriend to go slower, easier, and let yourself get used to it. Be very clear on what you need him to do. Communicate. The best way to do that is to combine instructions with positive reinforcement. ‘Yeah, that’s it, that feels good. Slow down, easy, ohh that’s so good.’ Tell him how you want it and when he gets it right, be sure to express that. Moan or show some sign of appreciation. He should want to please you and seeing that it’s working, he’ll get really into it!

However, if he still doesn’t listen to you and just does it “his way” – NOPE. Time for a new boyfriend.