It seems like the problem you’re running into here is that ultimately you’re not feeling good about this situation. He’s hooking up with you and yet still telling you about all the other guys he’s doing. It’s going from being a casual hook up to you feeling a bit used and not special. If he’s out there with all these other people then why is he with you at all? You’re just another one of them, right? Just another way for him to get off? Is that how it’s making you feel?
Maye he is gay and still has sex with you because he wants to somehow cling to the last bit of “straightness” he can. Maybe he actually just likes having sex with both men and women. Maybe he hasn’t been interested enough in another girl like he’s into you, but the guys so far are just a dime a dozen to him. I don’t know! You know him better than I do, so what do you think? It sounds to me like he’s in the experimenting stage of his life. He’s seeing what’s out there and what works for him. He’s doing his own thing, and that’s fine, nothing wrong with that, but it means that you need to think about yourself and what this is doing for you.
Whether or not he’s “gay” or “bi” – you have to evaluate how you feel in this arrangement with him. You obviously don’t like it because you’re here asking me whether or not you’re being stupid for fooling around with him. You feel stupid! No relationship, whatever kind it may be, should make you feel that way. So think about what it is you’re doing and how it makes you feel and decide whether or not it’s worth it to keep pursuing.
If you don’t want to date him, then it’s just sex that’s making you feel kind of worthless (which you are NOT). Is that something you want to keep doing? Or do you think you could stop and find something better for yourself? Because you do deserve better.
Sumptuous Daydreams 