I’d love to ride my man more often, but I get so self conscious when I do. I’m not the skinniest girl and am quite chubby, and I’m so nervous about things like bouncy up and down and everything. I know it’s a great way to give guys pleasure, but I don’t get pleasure from it because I’m so nervous :/. Please help!

I completely understand. Being on top exposes all of those little areas of our bodies that we’re insecure about. The first thing to remember is that your man LOVES it when you ride him. He does! He’s not seeing or focusing on this “bulge” or that “jiggle”, he’s seeing you riding his cock and it’s the hottest thing ever to him.

However! It’s not all about the guy. YOU have to feel good about it first. And I’m going to correct you about something – it’s not just a great way to pleasure a guy; being on top is the BEST position for WOMEN!

Women are the ones who get the most out of being on top. And that’s why you should want to do this, not just cause your guy will be into it. DO THIS FOR YOU!

So…take baby steps. Work your way up to feeling better and more confident about being on top. You can’t let your insecurities about your body get in the way of YOUR pleasure. After trying this position a few times, you’ll soon realize that all those other little things that you were worried about don’t mean jack squat when you’re squeezing his dick inside of you and riding him like a fucking bronco!

The more you realize how GOOD it feels and that he’s enjoying it just as much, then the more relaxed you’ll be and the more secure you’ll feel even with the being “exposed” part.

How to take baby steps? You can make sure the room is dark. No visual stimulation, it’s just all about the sensation. Now, this would be for you, primarily. He’ll like it more when he gets to see you, but like I said, baby steps first! You can work up to it! (And he’s going to love whatever you do, really.)

You can also try reverse cowgirl. That way he’s just seeing your back and ass, there’s less exposure there for you, so you get to feel more secure and he will get an awesome view of his cock going in and out which will drive him crazy.

Basically, try to create situations where you feel comfortable being on top, however you need to do it. Think about what the things are that bother you and then think about what would make you feel more comfortable when you’re on top. Once you start feeling sexier up there (and you will because having control is hot and gives you so many more options), you’ll slowly begin to loosen the reins on your limitations and just ride the fuck out of your guy without a care in the world but getting your damn orgasm!

GO FOR IT! OWN YOUR BODY! OWN YOUR PLEASURE! YOU’RE SEXY AND YOU FUCKING KNOW IT!