Okay, I have a problem… I love my boyfriend, I love having sex with him, I love how I’m comfortable around him, but my anxiety is now seriously starting to hold me back from enjoying sex. I am on the birth control pill and I take it religiously every morning, we always use a condom and make sure it didn’t break or tear, yet every month when I’m supposed to get my period, I have massive anxiety attacks that it won’t come. I don’t want to stop having sex but I just don’t know what to do.

You are taking all the precautions possible. There’s nothing to be worried about. You’re on the pill and you’re using condoms. Other than having him get a vasectomy, you’re doing everything you can.

Your anxiety about this leads me to think that there are some other stressful things going on in your life. Or maybe you know someone who recently got pregnant?

Talk to your doctor or someone else qualified and have them explain to you the chances of you getting pregnant with the preventative measures you’ve taken. Your chances are very, very small. You’re taking on the pill, that’s 99.9% effective. Then you have a condom as a physical barrier. The condom more than takes care of that freak chance of .1% you have left after the pill. You have to think about this logically, with facts, not let your head run away with all the ‘what if’s’.

Keep being careful and you will not get pregnant until you want to be pregnant. Okay? Think about some of the other factors in your life right now that might be influencing this anxiety about pregnancy.