hey! i slept the first time with my boyfriend and it was the first time for him too. he could not cum and he said he could not really feel anything, is it because he was masturbating so much (i’ve read your post about that)? maybe you could help me because i don’t know what to do :$ thank you :)

It’s very possible that too much aggressive masturbation could be the cause, but I’m a little worried because that excuse sounds a lot like a guy trying to make up some bullshit reason as to why he “can’t” wear a condom – because he can’t “feel” as much… If that’s the case, tell him to fuck off. You don’t need that kind of assholery in your life.

Now, I could be completely wrong about that! I have no idea what your situation is. So if it’s not that or an issue of masturbating, then it could possibly be a physical problem, or perhaps drug-related, prescription or non-prescription. It may be because of strong religious injunctions and/or guilt; the idea of not wanting to surrender to a woman; or, even fear of pregnancy! There’s a lot that goes into a guy’s state of mind when he’s not able to ejaculate. Either it’s a real physical problem or there’s something going on in his mind that’s stressing him out too much.

It was your first time! Keep trying. Make sure your movements have enough friction happening. If all you were doing was grinding, that could be the problem right then and there! If the same thing happens every time, then he should see his doctor about it. Remember though, this has NOTHING to do with you. His inability to orgasm is not your fault by any means so do not put that on yourself!

To be safe, tell him to keep his hands off his dick for a few weeks, try to have sex a few more times, and see what happens!