When in intercourse, my dick sometimes start unhardening so theres much less pleasure for both of us. Any thoughts on why that happens? Is it because I have more pleasure when I masturbate?
There’s several different factors that are a possibility as to why you might go soft during sex.
1) You’ve been drinking.
2) You’re stressed out and your mind is on other things. If it’s money or sports or family, etc. If you’re not in the moment, that could very well be the cause – especially if you don’t have a problem while masturbating.
3) Depending on your age, it could possibly be the beginning of ED (Erectile Dysfunction), in which case you would want to talk to your doctor about it. I doubt that’s it though.
4) You’re masturbating way too much and you need to cut back. Think of it like this: if you’ve been stranded in a desert for six days without water and you finally stumble across a spring, wouldn’t that be the absolute greatest drink of water you’ve ever had? Now imagine you haven’t masturbated or had sex for six days, and suddenly your girlfriend bends over and begs you to fuck her, don’t you think that you’ll experience one of the most mind-boggling orgasms of your life?
It’s about sensory deprivation for pleasure and you’re engaging in sensory overload which decreases your pleasure. If you’re jacking off every day or more than once a day, then sex isn’t going to have that much enjoyment for you because you’re all juiced out. Masturbation is great, yes, but fucking your girlfriend is better!
Also, when you masturbate really roughly with a hard grip and squeezing the head of your dick, it takes away from the sensation of entering something softer like the vagina. You’ve grown too accustomed to the pressure of your hand and pussy isn’t as forceful so you lose the sensation. CUT BACK ON JACKING OFF! And go easier on your dick. Masturbating should be about training your dick for sex, not ruining it. Stroke it gently, not aggressively. You want to increase your endurance and allow for pleasure, not completely ruin it for yourself.
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