Try to make sure you go to the bathroom at least an hour before having sex. Shower and soap up everything really well. If you are able to go, then don’t worry about ‘cleaning out’. Just clean your asshole in the shower! 🙂
If you can’t go, then maybe you can use an enema at least a few hours prior to having intercourse. If you do it right before you have sex, it dries you out and you’ll be more prone to rips or tears. You can buy a disposable enema kit at your local drugstore. It’s not healthy to do an enema very often so practice sparingly. There have also been studies done where it shows that enemas or any other kind of “waste cleansing” measures taken can cause more problems than they solve and have been implicated in the increased transmission of STI’s (including HIV).
Just be aware that it’s not necessary to “anal douche” before having anal intercourse. If you’re regular and not constipated, you’ll likely be clean inside already. The waste isn’t stored there. You’re also going to be using a condom (RIGHT?) and that’s the safest, cleanest way to have anal sex.
You should not bleed if you do it properly. You need to go really slowly, prepare your body for it (anal stimulation like rimming, slowly working lubed up fingers in, stretching your asshole by spreading out your buttcheeks, etc.), and use PLENTY OF LUBE. Seriously, there is no such thing as too much lube during anal.
If you bleed afterwards, that means rectal tissue got torn or damaged during sex (which should not happen!). You need to have your muscles be relaxed and open and your partner can’t be too rough with you. Rough anal will cause bleeding.
I’m sure I don’t have to say this, but I will anyway. WEAR A CONDOM. It’s not just for safety – it will allow him to move in and out of you more easily and prevent anal fissures (tearing).
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