I’m a girl (I’ve never had a girlfriend) and I like this girl who happens to be very inexperienced with relationships because she doesn’t address the existence of romantic love, and is bound to be arranged-married and whole-heartedly accepts it (for cultural purposes). Now here’s the case, we are really good friends. i’ve only known her for less than a year. Should I take a shot at it? or should I just let it go?

An arranged marriage? Wow. I have to say that is woefully out of my range of experience…

But it all comes down to this: how strongly do you feel about her? If you didn’t take the risk, would you regret it? That’s what it always comes down to, no matter what the details are.

Do you feel like she might be open to you if you tried? Because I’ll be honest, it is a real risk. You might lose your friendship with her, but then again…you might not.

How much do you want it? How much do you want her? That’s what you need to ask yourself. If she’s set on an arranged marriage and doesn’t give you any sign of being interested in you, I’m sorry to say you might be setting yourself up for failure. But if it’s worth it, if it’s worth taking the chance, then take it.

If you do decide to try, my advice would be to take it slow. Don’t rush into declaring your feelings all at once. Drop some hints, give her some signs, test the waters, and see what happens, how she responds. You can go from there. 🙂